Mummy's post:
Reyden had gotten his 1st and 2nd caning over last weekends. And I guess there might be more to come.
The 1st time Kent lost his temper and used the cane was some time last week when Reyden pushed Reyes and caused her to fall head down on the floor. This resulted in a big big "baluku" on her forehead. Though this isn't the 1st time he pushes her (and everytime we'll scold or tell him sternly that it's wrong) but this is certainly the biggest "injury" caused so far.
Over the weekends, Reyden pushed Kent's patience towards the limit further with all the fussing and tantrums. The acts include refusing to sleep, disturbing the sister during nap times, throwing his toys, crying for things that he wasn't suppose to play with & etc ... I knew that he does understand what he did were wrong cos I witnessed him throwing some papers into the washing machine. He took them out the moment he caught sight of me staring at him. I didn't even need to scream at him. But why does he want to do it in the 1st place? For fun? Or attention?
Then the last straw came when Kent picked them on his own on Monday. He stormed to the kitchen for the cane the moment they reached home. And before I had time to react, the cane landed on RR's backsides a few times. I was told that Reyden was picking up twigs and leaves, roaming around, ran to the playground without permission and refused to come back despite coaxing, shouting and dragging. And Reyes just followed the brother blindly.
The next morning Reyes told me "Meimei 屁股痛痛" and I could see a cane mark on her backside. I thought Reyden would have more but when I wanted to see his backside and asked him whether is it painful, he refused to let me see and answered me defiantly "不痛!不痛!"??? I continued to ask him "Are you scared of Daddy caning?". He said "No, Gorgor not scared". I almost fainted.
After much discussion and advice from some mummies, I concluded caning and shouting is still much undesirable. I had spoken to Kent and he too agreed that it doesn't seem to help and therefore he had decided not to use the cane on any of them again. (It's a relieve for me cos it actually hurts me to see the kids being caned.)
I managed to dig out the blog post about
Reyes' T2s many months back. Reading thru the experience and tips I gotten that time made me see the situation in a clearer picture. Reyden's apparently going thru the T2 stage now and we should apply those tips instead of losing it at him.
Well, whether it works or not with him, I don't know. But at least for the last 2 days when we didn't shout or scream at him, he was able to listen to us and we were in better control. So talking to him and taking control might be a better way out. I just hope it'll pass by soon.